Managing Pregnancy While Parenting a Toddler

You won't have quite the same luxury of time when preparing for your new baby compared to your first child. But even with a tot in tow, you can try to adopt these few ideas so you can still make the most of your pregnancy.

1. Don’t try to do everything perfectly.

You’re not going to have all the time or energy to manage all the tasks that you’re used to managing. It’s okay. Lower your standards. If that means a messier home, or a longer time tackling your to-do list, let it be. Cut yourself some slack. You’re already doing an important job: growing another baby.  If you can, delegate the work to members of the family and hired help, if any. You need the break and the support.

2. Take care of yourself.

Eat properly and on time. Nap when you can. Schedule time for yourself, to get a massage, attend prenatal yoga classes, or read a good book without being disturbed. Make it a habit and a priority to take care of your needs.

3. Tackle tasks at night.

If you have pregnancy insomnia or just really feel better at night, prepare for your morning needs before you go to bed. It will make you feel better equipped to tackle the morning. In between dealing with nausea and getting your toddler’s day started, there’s a lot to handle. Pre-plan where you can: breakfast you can easily prepare, what to wear, or packing for a day out. The evening hours are also a good time to get a few things out of the way, especially through the internet. Pay your bills, shop, and send out your queries online to save you time, effort, and energy.

4. Change the way you play.

Your toddler will still want time with you, but for everyone’s sake, you need to put limits on strenuous or demanding activities. Instead of roughhousing, introduce your kids to board games or puzzles, or some quieter play time that he can do with you. Choose a movie to watch or color a few pictures.  Invent stories while sitting on the couch or lying on the bed! The novelty might be enough to keep your toddler interested.

5. Help your toddler become independent.

Little children like feeling that they can manage things on their own. Use this to your advantage by asking your toddler to help with small chores. Teach him to take care of his own needs, within reason, like getting his sippy cup from the refrigerator or opening a box of snacks. It will give him a sense of pride and put him on the track to independence.

6. Enlist your village.

Don’t do it all by yourself. Your toddler can have a day out with your best friend, or can go visiting at Lola’s, or can have a daddy playdate. Ask your barkada to help with a few favors, like picking up some items that you know they have easy access to.